byJasleen Kaur GuptaJun 17, 2015 #momtales 7 Likes
Your little bundle is finally here and the phones won't stop ringing. Friends and family want to know if it was normal, how long it lasted and the general labour experience followed by some well-meaning advice. But what no one prepares you for is the soon after.
You must be ecstatic? How is it to be a mom? Isn't it the best feeling ever? I felt guilty and horrible because as I sat tired, in pain after my stitches (you even get them after a normal delivery) and completely clueless about what I would do with this fragile little living being in my arms, I have to admit I wasn't exactly feeling on top of the world.
Am I a bad mother? No. I am absolutely in love with my baby and she is now my stress buster, my life, my world but do I always love the responsibility that comes with a baby? No.
I'm sure there are a few mothers out there who can relate to these and if you do, don't feel guilty. For the new moms to be, don't be afraid but a reality check would have certainly helped me and I'm hoping through this article it can help you.
#1 You will not sleep for more than 2 hours at a stretch for the first few months Being sleep deprived is punishing so make sure you have plenty of help. Someone to burp your baby after you feed, small naps and plenty of power food can help you battle this. People say sleep when the baby sleep but I used some of that time to unwind. Watch a 20 minute episode or some TV. It lends some normalcy to your suddenly changed life.
#2 You will feel fat, bloated, ugly and see your body in a different light The good news is that it is temporary! Once you know that, just live it. Eat well, eat healthy not junk and drink plenty of water. Most importantly, get up in the morning and bathe and DO NOT wear your night suit. Wear comfy clothes by all means, that are easy to feed in but sitting in your night suit all day makes you feel sick. Makes a world of a difference if you continue making an attempt to be well kempt.
# 3 You will not see the inside of a salon for atleast 6 months But let that not be the reason to be a wildebeest. Use home salon services like Belita to get a well deserved basic wax and facial. Again, ask for help from those around you so you can make this possible.
#4 Your life will never be the same as it was before your baby It's important to accept this fact. It's not going to get better when your baby is 6 months old, it does not get better when your child starts walking - every phase in your and your baby's life is going to need you to be a better manager, a better planner, an early riser and someone that has more energy than you ever thought possible. Eating well and getting some workout into your routine (just walking your baby in a stroller) and making to-do lists will help you get it all done.
And let me summarise by saying that this is the toughest thing I have done in my life and I'm already keen to do it again because nothing matches the joy of being a mother on a good day :)
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